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how to be anti-social
a guide to incoherent and isolating social experiences
nate@zzstoatzz.io
Apr 23, 2026 · 2 min read · 1 read
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- if someone is confusing or upsetting you, assume they have no sane reason for doing or saying what they are doing or saying
- when ambiguous, assume intent is malicious, ignorant, or amoral. interpret others' actions in the context of your fears
- do not challenge or acknowledge the existence or influence of your assumptions, wholly trust your intuition and feelings
- pivot conversations when someone challenges your assumptions or cites reasoning outside your wheelhouse. avoid displaying a lack of knowledge in any domain – this is seen as weakness
- if you must ask questions, imply the correctness of your originally held position by wording your question suggestively
- dig in your heels when confronted with overwhelming dissent
- exploit your immediate network; when the obvious merits of your narrative are exhausted, present like-minded people with tastefully curated details of your interactions with detractors, to provide a more appropriate account that your supporters can rally around to crush any lingering threats to your narrative
- do not research or consider the record, acumen or credentials of those with whom you speak, unless you agree with them
- do not grant grace to those who make mistakes*, especially those that you have never met or otherwise spoken to
- when all hope is lost in conversation, retreat into your self
- do not seek to understand those you do not already understand
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